I used to think of joy and pain as opposing forces, like light and dark, impossible for them to co-exist without one overpowering the other. In my mind it was as if these two emotional experiences were in a cosmic battle for dominance, each seeking to make a life experience either good or bad. I … Continue reading The Art of Staying Present – Lessons from the Little Ones
It’s maternity leave eve today. I am at the end of almost 7 months of maternity leave, a gift I recognize and appreciate. I have been able to be the primary daytime caregiver for my son for these months and have been paid to do so, and although I think of maternity leave as a … Continue reading Maternity Leave Eve – here’s what I’ve learned so far.
There is a certain degree of mindfulness needed to survive and thrive on maternity leave in Mwanza. Mwanza is not a booming metropolis and as a result there are scant opportunities for Mum and Baby entertainment. Some entertaining activities can be created through one’s own initiative; others can be adapted to fit into something beneficial … Continue reading Catch the moments one by one
It takes a village... Such an oft used phrase in this short form and used in its entirety argues for the community that is necessary to raise a child. But what this pithy phrase fails to say is why we need this village. A variety of interpretations exist, many people say that children need a … Continue reading It takes a village … To quell the fears of motherhood
People like to tell war stories, especially when they’ve been through something hard. It is validating and liberating to speak about the pain, to break the silence. Mamas especially love to tell a good war story. Whether it’s a blood and guts tale of labour and delivery or a jaw-dropping story about the trials of … Continue reading Tell me the whole truth, the good and the struggle.
Hi little one, How’s it going in there? You doing okay? I can feel you kicking and squirming around quite a bit these days, so I just hope that means you’re feeling comfortable and having a good time. People say that I should be talking to you now, trying to bond with you. They suggest … Continue reading Dear little one, from your soon-to-be Mama
There are some habits that we cultivate over a long period of time that become so deeply engrained in our patterns of behaviour that we start to feel like they are part of our character. We say things like “that’s just who I am” or “that’s the kind of person I am”. But I’m not … Continue reading Quitting the Hustle